Proverbs 12.18 (CEB)
Some chatter on like a stabbing sword, but a wise tongue heals.
We have voice and a choice in how we use it. Though we want to believe that “sticks and stones” are the only things that hurt us in life, the reality is that words have power. Whether spoken, written, or withheld, words have influence in perceptions and outcomes. They can either build up or tear down one another.
The story goes that there was a young couple soon to be married. As they were preparing to be wed, the minister asked them what it means to use words to build one another up. Each thought for a moment and the bride said “words can be used to help one see the honest truth about ourselves, not so much to judge, but to put a mirror up to one another so that they can be their best selves.” The groom thought for a moment and replied, “words are to be ways for us to communicate the truest parts of ourselves so that another can know us.” “Yes,” the minister replied, “and the challenge will be to always see each other with eyes that want the best in each other, to be honest without being cruel about who you are and what you are becoming together.”
We all have significant relationships where words are either freely given or a stony silence has crept in, creating walls. We are given a voice and a choice in how we share ourselves with one another. The couple is off to a good start. The challenge is for all of us to build each other up with love and respect.
Sunday, we’ll carry on with this theme of building each other up for the kingdom’s sake. See you then…
Grace and peace,
Husband, father, minister, child of God, follower of Jesus Christ writing in the context of La Porte Community Church